Expert Do’s and Don’ts for an Unforgettable Marriage Proposal
There is really no wrong way to ask your special someone to marry you, but there are ways to make sure that your marriage proposal goes off without a hitch. With the help of experts like Martha Stewart, Sarah Pease, etc., here are some DO's and DONT's that can help you execute your proposal smoothly:
Do Make it Meaningful
This is the perfect time for getting sentimental. Think about the moments and milestones in your relationship. Take your sweetheart back to where you first met, kissed, or said, “I love you!” Share a favorite restaurant, view, stroll, or even a song, movie, or book. Creatively drawing on these special details will make a special day even more so.
Do Consider if the Proposal will be Public or Private
Not everyone wants to be in the spotlight, while some may dream of sharing the joy. If you are unsure what your partner would prefer, it’s time to do some digging, which, honestly, may start with subtly asking her. When in doubt, always play it safe. She obviously adores being alone with you, so you cannot go wrong with a one-on-one environment without an audience.
Do Stick on an Idea, Not a Script
Of course you’ll want to have some notion of what to say when you propose and how to say it. Maybe you want to reflect on a shared memory or common interest, or to simply tell him or her what you love most about them—do that, and it will be heartfelt no matter the words you choose. But if you memorise lines like an actor in a play, it will sound unnatural at best and forced at worst. Think about what you want to say ahead of time and focus on three things that you definitely want to communicate.
Don't Be Trendy
Don't plan your proposal based on what everyone is already doing right now. Be unique, and add your personal flare when planning your proposal. When it comes to selecting a destination for popping the question, consider finding a place that will always be there. Whether it’s a historical landmark or an outdoor location, the idea that you can always return there—even when you’re old and gray—is a great one.
Don't Let The Secret Slip
The more details people know, the more you risk ruining the surprise! Find out who needs to know what ahead of time, and keep everyone on a need-to-know basis. It’s more fun to share the happy news together as a couple anyway.
Don't Neglect your Own Look
Planning your “proposal outfit” may sound silly, but we’re talking logistics more than we are fashion (though you will want to look sharp). Keep the ring box safe and concealed up until the big moment by choosing pants or a jacket with deep pockets (and no holes!).